Five years ago my wife had every right to divorce me...

In premarital counseling, our counselor told us we might not be ready to get married, and she was right.


I believed that getting married would make my life better and provide me with the benefits of sex, connection, and companionship. 


I was naive to the reality of the intentionality, skill, and emotional awareness required to facilitate a life-giving relationship.


I didn't realize how heavily my previous consumption of sexualized content online, video games, and emotionally dissociative tendencies would impact my marriage. 


Sure enough, only a few months into marriage, we were arguing, I was numbing out on my phone, and things were miserable.


I had to keep a smile because we were in full-time ministry together, speaking at churches. 


I wasn't ready to handle the daily stress of communication, coordinating schedules, and caring for my wife. 


The closer she wanted to get, the more uncomfortable I felt, and ultimately, the further I tried to push her away.


In our first five years of marriage, my wife continued to catch me lying to her about my inappropriate internet use, and I refused to heal my patterns.


On top of that, I didn't celebrate her on special days (birthdays, anniversaries, etc.) while requesting she support me through my increasing anxiety.


I intentionally withheld connection from her and caused her emotional pain to keep us at a distance.


Just a few months into our 5th year together, things hit an all-time low, and the stakes were higher this time. 


In the previous two years, I tried convincing her that I was a sexually whole person, that she could trust me, and that I had made lasting changes. 


In September 2019, she came to find out that I had been lying to her the whole time. 


At this point, I was so numb to any emotion that I could not empathize with her pain or believe that any genuine change could take place in my life. 


I had come to think I was powerless to overcome addiction or create change and that my current condition as a man and husband was as good as it would get. 


Hitting rock bottom forced me to find answers for my brokenness.


We tried counseling and following different people's advice, but most of it didn't work. 


In the process, we discovered tools and beliefs that created lasting trust and connection while also removing the possibility of a return to addiction and withholding intimacy. 


At the beginning of our healing journey, my wife, Caitlyn, gave everything to me so that our marriage might last and we might have a chance. 


She chose us when I was too numb and angry to care.


For that, I am eternally grateful. 


This program resulted from many sleepless nights, countless tears, unimaginable pain, and an unwavering commitment to restore our marriage and find wholeness as a man in this world. 


Our marriage now has a rock-solid foundation, I have integrity, and we have a life-long future of love and connection.


By addressing the secrets and facing the shadows in your relationship, you can experience the same. 


Even if things look grim now, there is hope, and we're committed to saving as many marriages as possible. 


Types of addictive behavior covered in the program:

  • Wandering eyes/objectifying women outside of your marriage

    We break down how to heal from compulsive glances and unwanted attraction outside of your marriage

  • Porn addiction

    We cover both the use of hard-core pornography and soft-core social media porn. We will show you how to remove them from your marriage and never fear relapsing

  • Affairs

    Prevent emotional and physical affairs from happening in your marriage, as well as how to heal from previous betrayal

This program will help you:

Create a marriage that is finally safe, connected, and intimate.

  • Identify what addictive patterns exist in your marriage and how to talk about them

  • Understand the "why" behind your unwanted behavior and how to heal

  • Learn to validate your spouse's pain as a result of your behavior

Meet Brandon & Caitlyn Doerksen

Brandon and Caitlyn reach over 10 million people online each month. They have been together for over a decade and have four children. After experiencing years of toxic cycles marked by lying, hiding, and withholding, they discovered tools to help couples heal and rebuild their connection.

You can find them online @brandontalksmarriage and @caitlyndoerksen

THIS COURSE IS NOT FOR EVERYONE. PLEASE READ BEFORE SIGNING UP.

The traditional approach to healing broken trust and addiction fails to address the root issues behind the behavior, leading to years of relapse and continued trauma

What is the traditional approach?


1. Husband and wife primarily see different counselors attempting to heal separately.

Example: The husband in addiction only shares the details of his addiction with his counselor or men's group, and the wife is left questioning his progress and details of his behavior.


2. Most therapies don't address the root issues behind the behavior, resulting in years of relapse and continued trauma.


Example: A husband is caught using porn, but he never works through how he used social media as a type of porn addiction. He also never addressed what soul needs he was trying to meet in using porn, but tried to "stop" the behavior—resulting in relapse to the same addictive patterns months or years down the road.


3. Many counselors, pastors, and therapists attempt to help couples by giving them terrible advice in one of two ways. 

  • They tell them that their unwanted sexual behavior is "normal" and encourage them to do their best to work through it.
  • They tell men and women that they will always live with a level of sexual brokenness and attraction for someone other than their spouse. 

How our approach is different:

We believe healing from addiction and broken trust is a process that can only be done together. We will teach you how to heal and save years of suffering.

  • Inside the program, we give couples a thorough process to address the root systems behind addictive behavior and make RELAPSE impossible.

  • I (Brandon) have been clean from porn, objectifying women, or experiencing unwanted sexual fantasies for over 5 years without relapsing. We invite every couple who joins the program to participate in the same healing process.

  • We refuse to lower the standard of healing for people in addiction and believe every couple can experience the same level of healing we have

What couples are saying...



FAQ

  • How long do I have access to the program?

    You have immediate lifetime access to the course and all future updates.

  • I've tried counseling, how is this program different?

    Counseling is excellent if you can find the right counselor. In our experience, we spent a lot of time and money getting bad advice from counselors who didn't believe we could heal. What we offer in this program is a comprehensive approach to experiencing intimacy and safety, even with the complexity of your addictive tendencies and past experiences.

  • What if we have additional questions and need extra support?

    Upon signing up for the program, you can add our monthly group mentoring calls at a discounted price to get your specific questions answered and access all past recorded group calls.

  • What is your refund policy?

    Due to the deeply personal nature of the content shared in the Grounded Intimacy Program and the immediate access to proprietary material upon purchase, we do not issue refunds. We believe in this program's transformative potential and encourage you to commit fully to the journey. Thank you for understanding.