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You Can Heal Your Marriage

It's not for lack of effort or desire that your marriage is falling apart.


It's because you and your spouse haven't been shown a better way of relating with each other.


Are you facing any of these issues right now? 


  • There is a lack of trust and safety in your relationship


  • My spouse gets defensive and cannot get vulnerable and honest


  • Our dynamic constantly has me keeping my guard up


  • My spouse is overly reactive, keeping me from opening up and feeling safe to express my emotions


  • When my spouse expresses deep emotion, I shut down and don't know how to relate


If you're unsure what version of your spouse you'll get, how can you feel safe to open up? 


Or even more painful is for your spouse to be emotionally unavailable altogether. 


When your relationship lacks any substantial connection or intimacy, it can have you feeling like distant roommates rather than passionate lovers. 

What if you could address the root issues creating separation?

And begin to feel loved and cherished for the first time?

  • Discover the path to heal from past traumas and no longer project those onto your spouse

  • Uncover the hidden lies you've been told about marriage that keep you in constant tension with one another

  • Unlock the tools of communication and emotional intimacy for your relationship to flourish

Introducing: The Marriage Guide

A Practical Guide For Addressing The Five Core Areas Destroying Your Marriage

A comprehensive resource to empower you to create lasting changes in your relationship.
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What's Included

Here's what you'll find inside the guide. The Five Core Areas

  • 1. Childhood Wounds

    During childhood, our core memories and perspectives are formed, which can greatly impact our relationships as married adults. Examining our upbringing, including issues such as absent parents, enmeshment, and triangulation, can help us understand how our past experiences affect our ability to operate as healthy individuals in our marriage.

  • 2. Spiritual Reconstruction

    During childhood and our current lives, our spiritual beliefs shape how we interact with the world and our spouse. It's important to examine and potentially shift our beliefs to create a more life-giving and connected relationship. This may involve reevaluating beliefs about sin, the pressure to achieve in spiritual communities, and reinterpreting passages of scripture to promote healthy marriages. Accepting ourselves as loved and whole can transform how we relate to our spouse and bring more connection into our marriage.

  • 3. Sexual Renewal

    This section emphasizes the importance of healing and understanding one's sexuality within a marriage, addressing sexual addictions and the need for open communication while challenging misconceptions about men's sexuality and the role of technology/entertainment in fostering sexual wholeness.

  • 4. Effective Communication

    Here we discuss the importance of healthy emotional regulation, conflict resolution, and effective communication in a marriage. It encourages couples to understand their emotional responses, validate each other's feelings, and establish regular communication routines to stay connected and navigate life's challenges together.

  • Masculine & Feminine Dynamics

    Finally, we will explore the importance of embracing and balancing masculine and feminine energies in marriage to enhance communication, deepen intimacy, and create harmony. It emphasizes the need for self-awareness, open communication, and mutual respect in cultivating a powerful synergy between partners and fostering a lasting connection.

The Belief System

In each core area, you will be equipped with the tools and beliefs to experience breakthrough in your relationship

The Worksheets

In each core area, you will explore what needs the most attention and how to work through these topics as a couple

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Four years ago my wife had every right to divorce me...

In premarital counseling, our counselor said we might not be ready to get married, and she was right.


I was under the impression that adding a wife to my life would only improve things and provide me with the benefits of sex, connection, and companionship. 


I was naive to the reality of the intentionality, skill, and emotional awareness required to facilitate a life-giving relationship.


I didn't realize how heavily my previous consumption of sexualized content online, video games, and emotionally dissociative tendencies could impact my marriage. 


Sure enough, only a few months in, we were arguing, I was numbing out on my phone, and things were miserable.


I had to keep a smile on my face because we were in full-time traveling ministry together, speaking at churches. 


I wasn't ready to handle the daily stresses of communication, coordinating schedules, and caring for my wife. 


The closer she wanted to get, the more uncomfortable I felt, and ultimately, the further I tried to push her away to experience moments of reprieve. 


In our first four years of marriage, there were several cycles of my wife catching me lying to her about my inappropriate internet use or spending hours playing video games. 


On top of that, I didn't celebrate her on special days (birthdays, anniversaries, etc.) while requesting she supports me through my increasing anxiety.


I intentionally withheld connection from her and caused her emotional pain to keep are at a distance.


Just a few months into our 5th year together, things hit an all-time low. The stakes were higher this time. 


I had dug my heels in the previous two years, convincing her that I was a sexually whole person, that she could trust me, and that I had made lasting changes. 


In September 2019, she came to find out that I had been lying to her the whole time. 


At this point, I was so numb to any emotion I had no ability to emphasize with her pain or believe that any genuine change could take place in my life. 


I had come to think I was a victim of my biology and that my current condition as a man, a leader, and a lover was as good as it would get. 


Since 2019, I've spent thousands on counseling, read countless books, and spent countless hours healing with other men on the phone.


I've walked through many healing modalities that don't work and discovered the unique few that drive lasting change. 


At the beginning of our healing journey, my wife, Caitlyn, gave everything to me so that our marriage might last and we might have a chance. 


She chose us when I was too numb and angry to care.


For that, I am eternally grateful. 


This guide is the compilation of many sleepless nights, countless tears, unimaginable pain, and unwavering commitment to restore our marriage and find wholeness as a man in this world. 


Our marriage now has a rock-solid foundation, I have integrity, and we have a life-long future of love and connection.


By addressing the same five core areas in your relationship, you can experience the same. 


Even if things look grim now, there is hope, and I'm committed to saving as many marriages as possible. 


To your healing and hope of a connected lasting marriage,


Brandon Doerksen, Founder of Findingus.co